#Mywordfortoday is #beingauthentic
I had written this post about a month ago, but it is sooooooo fitting for today's #dailywritingchallenge. I have freshened it up.😉
My second name should be "Joie de Vivre". As a young lady, I was very outspoken and was given to speaking very bluntly.
But I was also impressionable, and I tried to suppress my personality as I was being formed by opinions and personalities of people I was impressed with.
But I never really fitted in anywhere, in cliques i.e. having loads of girls to vibe with, sort of being in a sorority and the likes. I, however, masqueraded, striving to find acceptance, and exhausting myself in the process.
I soon realized that I didn't like cliques very much....so I'd choose a lone friend who of course had their own "geng". I recently discovered that being an outlier could be attributed to the fact I am sanguine and also a southpaw (cool beans 😎).
When I turned 40, I realized I had been wasting my very fine personality (I know, quite silly to have wasted all that time) on trying to fit in 😒😏, when I was an outlier.
I became fascinated with me... Joie de Vivre (French, pronunciation: Zhuwa de viv) is the joy of living, the sheer excitement of being alive... I don't enjoy parties, they bore me, but I love life, I love reading, I love writing. I am very enthusiastic about living a full rich life.....I am still outspoken, albeit tempered now, I have become more diplomatic.
Have you discovered your superpower? Your voice, your identity?
Now, COVID19 has us camped in a sort of house arrest with ourselves and maybe our family/friend(s) for company, it's a great avenue to know you intensely and love you deeply.
This lockdown is a great time to interrogate your feelings about the stuff that makes you hurt or uncomfortable, also question your imposter syndrome (like, why are you here Madame? 😅).
If you interrogate your feelings and you do not like the person that you are, congratulations. You have now become self-aware and take steps to rewire yourself.
Being authentic does not mean being a perfectionist, in fact, it is the perfect antithesis
This is because the idea of perfectionism varies from person to person. And frankly, as human beings, life can get messy and spiral out of control. The best that we can do is adapt to the circumstances.
If we do not, we expose ourselves to unnecessary pain and suffering.
It makes me laugh though when people say "don't try to be others, there is only one you", I beg to differ, you can REFINE yourself to whatever you want as long as you are not deceiving yourself.
Many of us have discovered a side of us that we did not even realize we had. Some of us are baking/cooking, some have taken to tailoring, some, a love for gardening, some of us have realised we have a gift for coding, public speaking, content curation etc.
Bad habits can be and are learned, therefore good ones too are learnable. Surround yourself with people whose values you best want to copy (thank goodness for social media).
Assume complete responsibility for your life by owning up to your weakness/mistakes (working on them) and amplifying your strengths.
Cheers to fine-tuning yourself, cheers to being genuinely happy with whom you have made of yourself.
Cheers to an authentic you.
Bibire Omotoyosi Salihu🌹🍀