#Mywordfortoday is #ImposterSyndrome
Have you ever experienced a feeling of being inadequate, a feeling that makes you doubt your own competence and accomplishments?
A feeling that makes you self sabotage yourself many times. Don't worry you are not alone, these feelings of self-doubt are shockingly common.
Oyinbo people call it the "imposter-syndrome"...IS can make you feel that you only succeeded at a thing because of luck and not because of your ability. I used to think, albeit erroneously that it was nature's way of ensuring that we do not become narcissistic.
I have now found that it is a psychological challenge and it happens to the best of us.
Let me use myself as an illustration, writing is a sort of catharsis for me, but no matter how many times people tell me, "oh I loved that write up of yours", I still feel like I do not measure up.
I lately found out that I had such a high opinion of what writing should be like and I sought for that, not realizing that each person's talent is different.
The way we express ourselves is peculiar to each person and you should never measure yourself against what the World chooses. This is very important
If there's no place for your sort of talent, create it, you have absolutely nothing to lose, yea your ego will be bruised (If you fail), but so what? Egos are made to be bruised 😂😫. (Gospel according to Bibire)
My old Boss was wont to say, it is not what you do not have that is the issue, it is what you have that you are not utilizing...this is the crux of the matter.
So while it is good to seek for refinement, it is important to continually express your talent, this is the only way to get better at it.
Like I said in my earlier post, if you do not like who you are, create another you, whilst still retaining your core.
Start by knowing that you do not have just have one identity, NO YOU DO NOT.
Each area of your life may bear a different identity - being a Mom, in your finances, business, happiness, at work, faith, fitness and so on. This means that at every point, you are a work in progress.
And this is why I tell people, you may never be able to predict what you'd do in a given circumstance. So when I hear people say, it can never be me... I just chuckle.
Anyways, If you want to refine any aspect of your life, you have to shift your thinking.
This shift starts with the way you think about yourself and how you talk to yourself, but the biggest, most impactful way to refine your talent and by implication, your life is through your associations.
Jim Rohn said, “You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
The cliché of “Show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future" is not a mere platitude.
But more importantly, the worth you place on you is absolutely crucial, why? You’ll never get more out of life than what you think you’re worth.
Surround yourself with people who are doing better than you in those specific areas.
Thankfully, In this social media era, the company you seek do not have to be your Friends, read widely, listen to impactful podcasts, and Youtube videos AND then take action on what you have learnt or read.
Many times, when you go on IG, you see charlatans masquerading as makeup artistes, but those people are waaaay better than you because they have taken action and if they persist, they will get better at their craft.
The only way to deal with imposter syndrome is to continue to do....and when you get discouraged, look at how well you did in the past.
Also you can borrow this hack from Modupe Odele "Imagine that everyone is also an imposter" 😃
Leaving you with this quote i stole on Mark's internet
“Whenever you find yourself doubting how far you can go, just remember how far you have come. Remember everything you have faced, all the battles you have won, and all the fears you have overcome.”— Anonymous
Cheers to a better YOU 😘 and ME of course.
Bibire Ose Fowora
P.S. Many of my writeups are directed at me, but if you found parts of it useful, 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Bibireosefowora 💋
#mywordfortoday #impostersyndrome
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